Monday, January 15, 2018

It's Monday and it's Martin Luther King Jr. Day

Hey friends! How is 2018 treating you so far?

As I'm sure you know, today is Martin Luther King, Jr. day here in the US so my ten-year-old is home today with the four-year-old and me. I remember my historian father would make us read about the event or person in question when we had a day like this off from school. Picture a good amount of lugging around the World Encyclopedia books to look up some presidents.

My kids both know who MLK was and we have several books in our house about his life and work. I think today we are going to focus on doing some things for others and finally put everything together the books and blankets for the charity we picked this Christmas (Books and a Blanket) and maybe see if we can write some letters/make pictures for someone who might need a little cheer. What do you do with your kids to commemorate MLK Day?

It's been a while since I've done a post for "It's Monday." I've read five books so far this year. I started with finally reading Little Fires Everywhere, dreamed about someday owning a few chickens with Gardening with Chickens, finally read The Blazing World after it has been languishing on my shelves for a few years, and sped through Dreamland Burning and The Music Shop

        

I'm currently working my way through Practical Organic Gardening (can you tell I'm dreaming of spring?) and I'm excited to start The Resurrection of Joan Ashby, which I just picked up from the library.

What are you reading this week?


Thursday, January 11, 2018

Review: Hiding in the Bathroom

Morra Aarons-Mele is a successful woman by any standard. She founded a consulting agency that works on presidential campaigns, but she is also an introvert who had frequent panic attacks and hid from her colleagues at networking events. In Hiding in the Bathroom, she shows readers the proof that successful people don't have to be bombastic and spend every minute focused on their career to the detriment of everything else. Aarons-Mele gives advice to the rest of us: the people with anxiety who want to be CEOs, the introverts who want to run a company but hate networking, and the parent who wants to find success in their field and still spend time with their kids.

This is a book for people who work in certain fields; there are some jobs where you just don't have a lot of wiggle room. But if you are in the kind of profession where you control some aspects of your job, this is a great book. This book has chapters about dealing with FOMO (fear of missing out, for those like me who don't know the lingo), leaning in less to find the things that are priorities and the things you can let go, and finding the right job to fit your hermit ways. I also appreciated that she covered things like negotiating and sales--if you're an introvert like me, those things can quickly send you into a panic. But if they are a part of your job, you need to know how to deal with them without crying under your desk every time.

I'm pretty new to reading books about strengthening your career like this one, but a point I've seen a few times is that we are doing damage to ourselves and our workplaces when we only think about work-life balance as a downside to parenting. People also need balance to do things like have hobbies, care for their parents, or even just spend a few quiet hours at home without worrying the boss will call you at midnight. "I'm going to say it again: control over pace, place, and space is NOT a mommy issue! Everyone has their own work+life fit, and if you're an introvert, yours may not include sitting in an open-plan office fifty hours a week. If you love your career and you want to stay in it, don't let lack of flexibility or a poor work+life fit chase you out! Remember what workplace expert Cali Yost says: most mangers feel shocked when employees quit over a work+life conflict. They don't want you to leave. So next time you're chafing against silly face-time rules, think like a boss and take what you need."

This is a realistic book; the author admits realizes that this advice is not for every person or every career and that some newer employees have to prove their commitment before they can shift what their boss expects. But she also believes that people work best under different circumstances; if we as bosses and employees want the best work possible, shouldn't allow the flexibility for all people to excel?

Hiding in the Bathroom
An Introvert's Roadmap to Getting Out There
(When You'd Rather Stay Home)
By Morra Aarons-Mele
Dey Street Books September 2017
304 pages
From the library

Tuesday, January 9, 2018

Top Ten Tuesday: Books I Meant to Read in 2017

There are sadly, only so many hours in the day. Most of us build extensive lists of books we mean to read, but we just don't get to them all. Here are some of the books published in 2017 that I meant to read, but didn't get to...at least not yet! There's always 2018, right?

1. A Word for Love by Emily Robbins is a story of an exchange student who finds herself drawn into the lives of her host family instead of focusing on the ancient text she came to study.

2. Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology by Adam Alter is nonfiction about our addiction to our phones and computers (and maybe our video games, but don't tell my 10-year-old).

3.  The Hearts of Men by Nickolas Butler -- Butler succeeded in making me care for a musician, a farmer, a rich boy, and an injured football player in Shotgun Lovesongs. Can he make me interested in Boy Scouts in this book?

4. Hallelujah Anyway by Anne Lamott -- It's a new book by Anne Lamott. Need we say more?

5. When Dimple Met Rishi by Sandhya Menon was one of the hottest books of 2017. I need to get to this book about two Indian teens who meet at a computer camp and discover their parents intend for them to get married.

                 A Word for Love     Hallelujah Anyway: Rediscovering Mercy

6. The Confusion of Languages by Siobhan Fallon is a novel about two women who are married to soldiers and live in Jordan. The description promises beautiful writing and plenty of secrets!

7. Girls Made of Snow and Glass by Melissa Bashardoust is apparently a re-imagining of Snow White and I think this just might fill the hole in my literary heart for fairy tales retellings.

8. Every Word Is A Bird We Teach To Sing by Daniel Tammet is a collection of essays about language; clearly it's meant for me.

9. That Inevitable Victorian Thing by EK Johnston -- I loved Johnston's book about Ahsoka and her Thousand Nights books. I'm excited to read this one about an alternative future version of the British empire and its heir to the throne.

10. The Dark Dark by Samantha Hunt -- Hunt's Mr. Splitfoot was one of my favorite books of 2016, so I need to read her new collection of short stories as soon as possible.

             Every Word Is a Bird We Teach to Sing: Encounters with the Mysteries and Meanings of Language     That Inevitable Victorian Thing


Which books from your 2017 list are still waiting patiently to be read?

Friday, January 5, 2018

Long Books for Those Long Winter Nights

If you live in the Northeast United States like I do, you are probably digging yourself out from another snow storm. My son is enjoying his second day off from school, and we have had substantial snow at least once a week for the past three.



The good thing about cold, snowy days is the possibility of lots of reading. There's something perfect about curling up with a hot drink, a warm blanket, and a very large book. Winter is the perfect time to tackle that huge book you've been meaning to read. Here are some door stopper books I've read and a few I'm hoping to pick up this winter!

Books I've Read

Historical Fiction:
Hild by Nicola Griffith (546 pages)
Cutting for Stone by Abraham Verghese (541 pages)
The Signature of All Things by Elizabeth Gilbert (501 pages)
The Dovekeepers by Alice Hoffman (504 pages)

Mystery/Suspense:
The Fireman by Joe Hill (752 pages)
Magpie Murders by Anthony Horowitz (502 pages)
The Cormoran Strike Mysteries by Robert Gailbraith (first one is 455 pages)

Nonfiction:
Alexander Hamilton by Ron Chernow (818 pages)
Dead Wake by Erik Larson (430 pages)



Books I Hope to Read Soon
Gnomon by Nick Harkaway (704 pages)
Wolf Hall by Hilary Mantel (523 pages)
Benjamin Franklin: An American Life by Walter Issacson (590 pages)


What huge book do you think I should read this winter?

Tuesday, January 2, 2018

Music Review: A Laurie Berkner Christmas

I know, I know, Christmas was a week ago. I've been meaning to review this CD with the little one for weeks, but we were too busy listening to it (and of course, doing all the other wonderful, crazy holiday stuff).

Laurie Berkner is much-beloved by the preschool crowd. We've reviewed one of her albums here and she is a favorite in our house. In fact, my four-year-old often requests Berkner (one name, like Cher), so we were happy to get her Christmas CD. There is a lovely combination of original songs and traditional songs performed in a new way. Your kids will definitely be happy to sing along, but it won't drive you crazy if you have to listen to it for 25 days straight.

A Laurie Berkner Christmas

Becca's Thoughts: It's awesome. Berkner is really good and I like her. When I was a baby, I loved Berkner so much and I needed Berkner songs. The Christmas songs are awesomest because they are all about these Christmas guys and they are so awesome! Sing with Becca and Berkner all across the world!

Song Most Likely To Cause A Small Concert In the Backseat: Christmas Lights
Song Clearly Meant For A Christmas Dance Party: Santa's Coming to My House Tonight
Song That Still Makes Me Cry (every time): Silent Night
Song I Had Never Heard Before: Christmas Is Coming
Becca's Favorite Songs: Candy Cane Jane and Jingle Bells

A Laurie Berkner Christmas
October 2012
15 songs
Received for review

Wednesday, December 20, 2017

Review: The Power

Almost overnight, everything changes. Girls suddenly have the ability to send electricity through their hands--they can use this to attract attention, to protect themselves, and even to hurt others. We follow four people as the power dynamic between men and women begins to shift. Margot is an American mayor wondering how this power will affect her political future and the decisions of her teenage daughter. Roxy is the tough daughter of a British gangster, while Allie is a terrified girl who runs away from her abusive foster family to the safety and possibility of a convent. Tunde is a young man in Nigeria whose knack for capturing the right moments catapults him to journalistic fame. The Power is a fascinating look at what it means to have and be in power.

This book is one of the most buzzed-about books in 2017. I heard about it first from my sister who was studying abroad and had the opportunity to read it before it came out in the US. The Power won the Baileys Prize for fiction and is appearing on many "best books of the year" lists. And it certainly is a fascinating idea: what would our world look like if women had a kind of power that men could never possess? How does a female-dominated society operate?

Unfortunately for me, this was one of those books that had a great idea but the execution fell flat. Aldermann gives us four very different perspectives, so we can see what is happening all over the world. This necessitates that we don't get close enough to all of the characters to really want to follow them. Personally, I was really intrigued by just two of them and found myself eager to skim through the other sections to get back to them.

Perhaps one of the boldest things the author does is to show us a world that really isn't that different from our current one. Power corrupts everyone, male or female, and Aldermann writes women who do not hesitate to threaten, injure, rape, or kill to keep their power. While I was intrigued, I found myself wishing for more nuance. Surely some things would be different if women were in power. While I would have loved to read that book, I am fascinated by Aldermann's ideas and look forward to seeing what she writes next.

The Power
By Naomi Alderman
Little, Brown, and Company October 2017
288 pages
Read via Netgalley

Friday, December 15, 2017

The Plight of the Too-Nice Book Reviewer

It happens more than I would like to admit.
I write a review and find myself pausing.
Am I being too mean?

I understand that the author of even the worst book spent years of their life writing and re-writing, creating and refining characters, planning and dreaming and working. There is a distinction between literary criticism and cruelty. I want to be the kind of reviewer who stays way over on one side of that line. A bad writer can improve. A good writer can and will occasionally write a dud. And can we just take a minute to mention the subjectivity of enjoying a book?

On the other hand, my job as someone who reviews books is to distinguish between good writing and bad writing, and to guide anyone who reads my reviews towards the books they should spend their precious time reading.

So I often find myself reading a snippet aloud to my husband to double check that it's insightful instead of insulting. I can point out both the good and the bad in a book without stomping on anyone's hard work. It's easy to write a zinger that is a bit funny and a bit cruel, but it's harder to point out places where the narrative could have been smoother or the characters written more vividly while also writing about the strengths of a particular book.


How about you? Do you sometimes find it hard to navigate between critical and mean?